Quick picks for two

This or that questions for couples

One hundred fifty fast choices, from coffee or tea to big spoon or little spoon. Answer on three, guess each other’s picks, and stop on the ones that start a story.

150 questions
Quick fire · Home life · Dates & travel · Love & us
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How to play this or that questions for couples

Pick your rounds

Switch on the levels you want. Quick fire is the warm up; Love & us is where the good stories hide.
Answer fast

Read the card out and both say your pick on three. No thinking, no changing your answer after.
Explain one

When you split, the odd one out gets thirty seconds to defend their pick. Then pick one card each to explain properly.
Play the guessing round

For a harder game, guess your partner’s pick out loud before they answer. Keep score, or don’t.

Tips for a good round

Say your answers at the same time so nobody can copy.
The fun lives in the splits. Ask “why that one?” every time you disagree.
Save the cards that surprised you and send them as picks for next time.
On a road trip, the passenger reads and both of you answer.
Ten cards makes a good waiting room game; the whole deck makes a whole evening.

All 150 this or that questions for couples

All 150 this or that questions for couples, grouped by round. Read straight down the list, or let the deck above shuffle them for you.

Quick fire 38 questions

Warm up picks you can answer before the other one finishes reading.

Sunrise or sunset?
Coffee or tea?
Early bird or night owl?
Sneakers or boots?
Sweet or salty?
Texting or calling?
Books or podcasts?
Cats or dogs?
Summer or winter?
Pizza or tacos?
Spontaneous or planned?
Rain on the roof or sun on the porch?
Movie night in or movie theater?
Pancakes or waffles?
Window seat or aisle seat?
Big city or small town?
Fries or onion rings?
Voice notes or long texts?
Breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
Car karaoke or quiet drive?
Ice cream or cake?
Chocolate or vanilla?
Socks in bed or no socks ever?
Thunderstorms or snow days?
Board games or video games?
Thrift store finds or brand new?
Comedy or horror?
Crossword or jigsaw puzzle?
Fresh flowers or a houseplant?
Morning workout or evening walk?
Spicy or mild?
Popcorn or candy?
Front row or back row?
Tidy desk or creative chaos?
Ocean swim or pool float?
Hoodie or sweater?
Matching outfits or absolutely not?
Bubble bath or long shower?

Home life 38 questions

The small habits that decide how a Sunday, a kitchen and a bed get shared.

Cook together or one cooks one cleans?
Dishes right away or dishes in the morning?
Made bed or unmade bed?
One big blanket or two blankets?
Cold bedroom or warm bedroom?
TV on in the background or quiet house?
Grocery store together or grocery delivery?
Meal plan or see what happens?
Sunday reset or Sunday off?
Jungle of plants or one brave cactus?
Candles or fairy lights?
Couch nap or bed nap?
Takeout night or cook from scratch?
Shoes off at the door or shoes on inside?
Music while cleaning or podcast while cleaning?
Alarm clock or wake up naturally?
Shared closet or separate closets?
Left side of the bed or right side?
Fall asleep cuddling or fall asleep with space?
Leftovers or fresh every night?
Clean as you go or one big clean?
Breakfast in bed or breakfast at the table?
White noise or total silence?
Open shelves or everything hidden away?
Hosting friends or being the guests?
Big personality pet or low maintenance pet?
Turn up the heat or extra sweater?
Laundry folded right away or the laundry chair?
Shopping list app or list on the fridge?
Slow mornings together or quiet mornings alone?
Cozy clutter or clean and minimal?
Night in with friends or night in just us?
Family recipe or brand new recipe?
Fix it ourselves or call a pro?
Tiny city apartment or big house far out?
Chores split by task or chores done together?
Matching mugs or mismatched mugs?
Garden or balcony?

Dates & travel 37 questions

How you like to spend a night out, a weekend away and the trip after that.

Fancy dinner or picnic?
Museum date or arcade date?
Surprise date or plan it together?
Beach vacation or city weekend?
Hotel or cabin?
Road trip or flight?
Pack light or pack everything?
Full itinerary or just wander?
Farmers market or flea market?
Concert or comedy show?
Stargazing or sunrise hike?
Cooking class or pottery class?
Bowling or mini golf?
Coffee date or dessert date?
Double date or just the two of us?
Our usual spot or somewhere new?
Camping or glamping?
Theme park or national park?
Rainy day indoors or rainy day walk?
Dress up or dress down?
Phones away or photos of everything?
Brunch or late dinner?
Ice skating or roller skating?
Bookstore or record store?
Train ride or boat trip?
Street food or reservation?
Souvenirs or just photos?
Early to the airport or just in time?
Aquarium or botanical garden?
Karaoke or trivia night?
Sunset drive or midnight snack run?
Hostel adventure or hotel robes?
Weekend away or staycation?
Long walk or long lunch?
Side by side or across the table?
Spa day or adventure day?
Paris or Tokyo?

Love & us 37 questions

How each of you likes to be loved, comforted, surprised and made up with.

Words or actions?
Holding hands or arm around the shoulder?
Forehead kiss or cheek kiss?
Love letter or love playlist?
Surprise gift or the gift I asked for?
Big gestures or little everyday things?
Talk it out now or sleep on it?
Apologize first or hug first?
Pet names or real names?
Affection in public or affection in private?
Good morning text or good night call?
Anniversary trip or anniversary at home?
Slow dance or goofy dance?
Compliment my mind or compliment my style?
Big spoon or little spoon?
Note in my pocket or note on the mirror?
Space after a fight or closeness after a fight?
Celebrate big or celebrate quietly?
Mixtape or scrapbook?
Make me laugh or let me vent?
Kiss hello or kiss goodbye?
Flowers or my favorite snack?
Back scratch or head rub?
Serenade or love poem?
Old photos night or future plans night?
Text all day or catch up tonight?
Same hobbies or separate hobbies?
Grow old in the city or grow old by the sea?
Our song or our movie?
Matching pajamas or stolen hoodie?
Handmade gift or store bought gift?
Quality time or thoughtful gifts?
Plan the future or live in the moment?
Tell me straight or soften it a little?
Remember the anniversary or remember the little details?
Inside jokes or secret handshake?
How we met story or first date story?

Frequently asked questions

What are good this or that questions for couples?

Good ones are fast to answer and quietly revealing: big spoon or little spoon, talk it out now or sleep on it, full itinerary or just wander. This deck has 150 of them across four rounds, from quick fire to love and us.

How do you play this or that as a couple?

Read a card, both answer at once, then talk about any you split on. For a harder round, guess your partner’s pick before they say it out loud. Pass the phone mode keeps track of whose turn it is to read.

Is this or that the same as would you rather?

Close cousins. This or that is a quick preference between two everyday things; would you rather drops you into a scenario and makes you choose. If you like the debate more than the speed, try the Would You Rather deck too.

Can we play this or that over text or on a call?

Yes. Copy or share any single card, or send the whole deck to your partner with one link. Heart a few cards and “Send these to your partner” opens the same deck with only the ones you chose.

Are these okay for a new relationship?

Yes. Quick fire and Dates & travel are light enough for early dates, and Love & us gets more personal without getting heavy. Switch off any level that feels too soon.

Is it free, and do I need to sign up?

Free, no account, nothing to install. It runs in your browser, and the favorites you save with the heart stay on this device only. Nothing is sent anywhere.

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