The temperature
A 0–100 read of how heated it got, from "Cool-headed" to "Boiling over" — useful for noticing whether you two escalate or simmer.
The post-fight debrief
Paste the fight. Get the debrief.
Every argument is two conversations: the one you had, and the one you were actually having. Paste any chat — a WhatsApp export, a screenshot's worth, whatever you've got — and get a warm, therapist-style read of both. No winner declared. Nobody called toxic.
Read once, then deleted. Never used for training.
An AI reflection, not therapy or a verdict. Takes about a minute.
Step 1 of 2 — your conversation
Bring us the argument
Paste it straight from your chat app, or drop in the exported file. Names and all — we'll use them kindly.
0 / 30,000 characters Needs at least 80 characters — a few messages from each side.
That was a long one — we kept the last part (the most recent 30,000 characters), which is usually where the argument lives.
Reading your export on this device…
How do I get that file?
- Open the chat in WhatsApp
- Tap the name at the top, then scroll down (Android: tap ⋮ → More)
- Tap Export chat → Without media
- Send it to yourself, then upload the .txt here
From another app? Select the messages, copy, and paste them above — that works from anywhere.
Your chat never leaves this device until you say so — only the part you choose is sent, and it is deleted once the debrief is written.
Step 2 of 2 — the context
Two quick things
They change how we read it — a fight between colleagues reads nothing like one between partners.
Who are the two of you? required
Read once, then deleted. Never logged, never used for training.
Which part of it
That's a long history. Let's find the fight.
Each bar is a stretch of time — taller bars talk more about your topic. The tinted part is what we'll read.
0 messages
Only the stretch you choose is sent. The rest never leaves your device.
One last look
Are you sure this is the part you want read?
About
The two of you
Dates
Messages
Who's in it
It starts …and ends
Read once, then deleted. Never logged, never used for training.
Reading your conversation…
Usually 20–30 seconds — it's writing the whole debrief.
That didn't go through
Explore the other tools →Your debrief is ready
First, the temperature
The rest is written and waiting — what it was really about, the patterns underneath, and one gentle way to reopen it. Unlock it now: this debrief clears itself in fifteen minutes, and we'll email you the summary so the thread isn't lost.
Your argument, debriefed
Two people fought because two people care. Here's what we heard.
An AI-generated reflection, not therapy, a diagnosis, or a verdict. If things feel heavier than a rough patch, please reach out to a licensed professional.
How it moved
Arguments have a shape. This is yours — where it built, where it peaked, and where one of you reached back.
Read it as a table
It looked like it was about
It was really about
The two of you, read gently
What we noticed
Patterns, not accusations. Every couple has them; naming them is how they loosen.
Repair attempts we spotted
Small reaches back toward each other — easy to miss mid-fight, worth celebrating after.
What each of you might really be saying
Three things to try, together
And one thing each
Not homework, and not a scorecard — both of you were asking for something in that fight. These are what each of you could offer the other.
A way back in
One sentence either of you could send to reopen this gently.
One last thing
Keep it, or send it
A card with the shape of it — the temperature, what it was really about, and the way back in.
The card is made on your device and shared only if you choose to. Tick the box above to swap names for initials before you post it.
Finish this one in Twogle.
You've got the debrief. The harder part is the conversation it points to — and that goes better with something in the middle. Twogle gives each of you a private space, one you share, and prompts that catch the pattern while it is still just a conversation. Pick the thread back up there, mediated.
Know your pattern before the next one
A debrief reads one argument. The Conflict Style Quiz reads how the two of you fight in general — and what happens when your style meets your partner's.
Take the Conflict Style Quiz →What is the Argument Analyzer?
The Argument Analyzer is a free tool that reads an argument the way a good therapist would: warmly, on both sides, and with an eye for what the fight was actually about. You paste the chat — or upload a WhatsApp .txt export — and get back a debrief: the emotional temperature, the surface topic versus the real issue underneath, each person's communication style and unmet need, the patterns that kept the fight going, the repair attempts you both missed, and one sentence either of you could send to reopen the conversation gently. It never picks a winner, never diagnoses anyone, and never calls either of you toxic. Most arguments are two people making a reasonable point badly; this is the translation.
How it works
- Paste the fight. Copy the argument from any chat app and paste it in, or upload the .txt file from WhatsApp's "Export chat" — we strip the timestamps and system lines for you. Then two quick taps: what it was about, and who the two of you are to each other.
- We read it, once. The conversation is read by AI trained on nothing of yours — never written to our database, never logged, never used for training. It is held only while the debrief is being written, then deleted.
- You get the debrief. A warm, structured read of the whole thing: temperature, the real issue, both perspectives, the patterns, the repair moments, three things to try, and a way back in.
What you'll learn
Surface vs. real issue
What the fight looked like it was about, and what it was really about. These are almost never the same thing, and the gap is where the fix lives.
Both of you, read gently
Each person's communication style in this argument, the need that went unmet, and — because it is always there — one thing each of you did well.
The patterns
The moves that kept the fight going (the "always", the retreat, the scorekeeping), each with a short quote from your chat and a gentler way to say the same thing.
Repair attempts
The moments one of you reached back toward the other — a softening, a joke, an olive branch. Couples who notice these fight the same amount but recover faster.
A way back in
Three concrete suggestions and one sentence either partner could send to reopen the topic without reopening the wound.
A worked example
Here is the kind of argument people paste, and the kind of debrief they get back. (Hand-written example — your debrief is generated fresh from your own conversation.)
Maya: you said you'd book the flights this week
Sam: I've had a brutal week, I'll get to it
Maya: you always say that. I end up doing everything for this trip
Sam: "always". great. here we go
Maya: I'm not starting anything, I just don't want it hanging over us
Sam: fine. I'll do it tonight. happy?
Maya: honestly not really. it's not about the flights
Temperature
58 — Heated. It warmed up fast around "always", then cooled slightly when Maya softened. Nobody boiled over.
On the surface
Booking flights for the trip.
Really about
Maya wanting to feel like Sam shares the mental load of the trip, and Sam wanting his hard week to be seen before being handed a task.
A pattern we'd flag
"Always" and "never". "You always say that" turned one late booking into a character verdict, which is the moment Sam stopped hearing the request. Gentler version: "This is the third time it's slipped, and it's making me feel like the trip is mine to carry."
A repair attempt
"I'm not starting anything, I just don't want it hanging over us" — Maya reaching for de-escalation. It sailed past Sam, which is normal; most repair attempts do.
A way back in
"Can we try the flights conversation again? I don't think either of us said the real thing."
Private by design
You are pasting a real fight with a real person you love, so we built this the only acceptable way: your conversation is read once, held only while the debrief is being written, and never used for training. There is no account, no database row, and no log line containing your words. The transcript sits in an encrypted queue for the seconds the analysis takes and is cleared as soon as it is done; the finished debrief expires by itself fifteen minutes later. If you email yourself the result, the email carries the summary numbers — never the transcript. The one thing we cannot control is your own clipboard, so paste from a device you trust.
Frequently asked questions
Is my conversation private?
Close to it, and we would rather be exact than flattering. Your transcript is held only while the debrief is being written — a matter of seconds, encrypted, in a queue that is cleared the moment the work is done. It is never written to our database, never logged, and never used for training. The finished debrief is kept for fifteen minutes so your browser can collect it, then it expires on its own. After that, nothing of the conversation remains on our side.
What can I paste or upload?
Any chat between the two of you, from any app. Paste it straight in, or upload a .txt export (the WhatsApp "Export chat" file works as-is — we strip the timestamps and system lines for you). It needs to be between 80 and 30,000 characters; if it is longer, we keep the most recent part, which is usually where the argument lives.
Is this therapy?
No, and we want to be plain about that. This is an AI-generated reflection, built on ideas from couples research but not a clinical assessment, a diagnosis, or a substitute for working with a professional. If what is happening between you feels heavier than a rough patch, a licensed couples therapist is the right next step.
Will it tell us who was right?
No, on purpose. The analyzer never picks a winner, never diagnoses anyone, and never calls either of you toxic. It reads both sides with the same warmth, because most arguments are two people making a reasonable point badly. What you get is a translation, not a verdict.
How long does it take?
About a minute. Paste the chat, add a line of context if you want, and the debrief usually takes twenty to thirty seconds to write. It is free and there is no account to create — we ask for an email address at the end so we can send you the debrief, and that is the only thing we ask for.
The arguments people bring us
Some fights have a shape you can name before you read a word of the transcript. These go deeper on the ones that come up most, with the patterns each tends to produce, a worked example, and a way back in. Every one of them opens the analyzer with the topic already set.
- When you keep fighting about money — when the fight is about money.
- When the fight is really about their family — when his family, or hers, is in the room.
- When the fight is about trust — jealousy, suspicion, and the fights that follow.
- When the fight is about sex and closeness — desire, distance, and the argument nobody starts on purpose.
- When you fight about the kids — two parents, two childhoods, one decision.
- Analyze a WhatsApp argument, export and all — the whole chat, not just the last message.
- What your texts say about how you fight — arguing by text, and why it goes wrong.
- Analyze an iMessage argument — getting the conversation out of messages.
Other tools for couples
- The Conflict Style Quiz — 30 questions on how the two of you fight in general, and how you find your way back.
- Conflict Style Compatibility — fifteen pairings across the five conflict styles, with the fight loop and the de-escalation playbook for each.
- The Relationship Check-In — 28 warm questions, a Snapshot across seven dimensions, best compared side by side with your partner.
- The Mental Load Calculator — if the fight was about chores, fairness, or who carries what, tally the real split together and see where you quietly disagree.
- The Twogle blog — research-grounded guides on repair, the softened startup, and everything else underneath a good argument.
- Back to the full tools library.
From the Twogle blog
- Couples Communication: The Complete GuideThe evidence-based skills underneath every conflict style, soft startups, listening, and repair.
- The Gottman Conflict BlueprintSix steps for navigating disagreement without damage, whatever your style.
- How to Repair After a FightA step-by-step recovery guide, from micro-repairs back to reconnection.
- The Softened Startup, With ExamplesHow to raise a hard thing so your partner can actually hear it.
- The Pursue-Withdraw LoopWhy one partner pushes and the other retreats, and the move that breaks the cycle.